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W.I.E.R.D - What I Enjoyed Reading & Discussing (week 9 2021)

Regrets, Bored, Overthinking, Story-telling, Parenting

Some great reads from the internet this week



Much can also be learned about how to make good life decisions by asking people what their biggest regrets are. Regret is a negative emotion you feel when reflecting on past decisions and wishing you had done something differently.

There were five regrets that dying people told her about most often:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me

  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard

  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings

  4. I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends

  5. I wish I had let myself be happier


Bored, woke & high maintenance


Fire in the belly was what got the newly rich Indian rich and when they see their off-spring listless and entitled they worry about their future. Parental wealth will get them through but in an aspiring country like India with contenders for the pie rising out of the soil faster than before, the life skills needed to stay afloat might be missing. The grim realization that money is the goal but not the destination is just now dawning on the parents of the now not-so-young raja betas and rani bitiyas.

The real challenge for newly affluent parents is to bring up children who are aware of their privilege and are willing to use it to actually make a difference rather than just being keyboard and hashtag warriors. Not having money brings with it a set of problems. Having it, brings a whole new world of challenges. And there are somethings that money cannot buy – having sorted kids is just one of them.


Overthinking


Deliberation is an admirable and essential leadership quality that undoubtedly produces better outcomes. But for some, there comes a point in decision making where helpful contemplation turns into overthinking. If you can relate, here are five ways to stop the cycle of thinking too much and drive towards better, faster decisions.



Story telling


However, if in-between each story beat you can put the words “but” or “therefore” then you have a story in which the events taking place are reacting to each other.



...when a child calls you a name or smacks you, many parents think that the child is pushing your buttons, that they’re testing boundaries and want to manipulate you. The Inuit parents and elders I interviewed almost laughed when I said that. One woman said something like, “She’s a kid—she doesn’t know how to manipulate like that.” Instead, what they told me is that young children are just these illogical, irrational beings who haven’t matured enough and haven’t acquired understanding or reason yet. So there’s no reason to get upset or argue back—if you do, you’re being just like the child.

 

Thanks for reading through. Be safe. Cheers!

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